A long time I started making decisions purely based on my gut. And then I would deal with the ramifications later. Some called this irresponsible but I called it living. People, including my mother, loved to remind me how this decision-making process would need to change once I had a family, a stable career and real-life responsibilities. They were right and they were wrong. I wasn’t blinded that things would change, but I continue to be adamant that I won’t let the life I envisioned living, change just because a few more challenging pieces to the puzzle had been added in.
Fast-forward past the years of travelling around the world, working contract work here, there and everywhere, and living out of a few Rubbermaid bins; now at 39 years old I have added in one slightly more stable career, one husband, one dog and just one child (not by choice as I wanted a bigger family) into the life-mix. And still I try hard to live by design and choice and not by accident. But far too often I hear clients tell me they are envious of the life I live. They only wish they could be freer, or more adventurous, or intentionally live with a large vision. And all I think is YOU CAN. You so can.
When was the last time you asked yourself what type of life you want to have in 3 years, 5 years or 10 years from today? When was the last time you thought about all you want to feel, do, accomplish, see and be? Without giving yourself the space and time to ponder where you are and where you want to be, it is hard to move forward to your ideal life. So, I recommend you start there. Turn technology off. Find silent. And get bored. This is where the magic can happen. This is where you can daydream the good stuff.
Once you have set out a picture (clear or not), it’s time to take the steps to get you closer to living the real deal. Dance through these 6 steps, going forwards and backwards, and backwards and forwards often, and soon enough you will start to see the progress.
1. Get clear on how you want to feel. And start adding things that create that feeling into your life DAILY. For example, I want a life filled with adventure, therefore I fill my life with regular adventures big and small.
2. Make realistic and unrealistic goals. “Being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity.” -Will Smith. So be safe AND be wild with your goal setting. Risk and feel failure and keep pushing the boundaries of what you THINK is possible.
3. Do less. Say no more than you say yes. Make room for nothing. Daydream. Have a priority not priorities. Doing less will make room and time for the things you really want to be doing and being.
4. Do a little everyday. It may only be five minutes of writing, or of running, or of adventure, or of music. Whatever your dream life includes DO THAT THING every SINGLE DAY. Start small but start somewhere.
5. Make sacrifices. Let me be clear: my life filled with working for myself, traveling, adventure, health and fitness has not come without trade-offs. I have missed out on social events, latest gadgets, new outfits and expensive hotels. In exchange for long nights working, less free-time and a mattress on the floor. And I glad make the trade.
6. Get uncomfortable. Still to this day, it all feels really frightening when I go to make a decision based on my gut and not my head. But that in my experience is always where the really amazing shit happens.
To live is the rarest thing of all. So maybe, just maybe it’s time to start living your best life yet. Have you taking the leap and started the wheels of a new chapter in life? Need some words of wisdom to tackle this? Check out last week’s Facebook Live on the Move Eat Play group (www.facebook.com/groups/moveeatplay) for all you need to set yourself up for success.